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25 Of the best pieces of advice from self-help books

Self-help books have been known to greatly benefit it’s reader. They help us interpret ourselves and the world more positively; they inspire us to make better choices and take positive actions more often; they help us smash through our limitations; and they help us grow and expand.

People are often put off by the name of the genre – most people don’t like to admit they need help, they least of all want to sit and read a full book about self-improvement.

But they are incredibly underrated, and they have the power to move us and inspire us in ways we could never predict or foresee.

We’ve compiled a list of 25 incredible pieces of advice from a range of self-help books.

1. “Whenever I am in a difficult situation where there seems to be no way out, I think about all the times I have been in such situations and say to myself, “I did it before, so I can do it again.”
Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

2. “Even though we often mess up, most of us are doing the best that we know how with the circumstances that surround us.”
Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things From Taking Over Your Life

3. “Starting over can be the scariest thing in the entire world, whether it’s leaving a lover, a school, a team, a friend or anything else that feels like a core part of our identity but when your gut is telling you that something here isn’t right or feels unsafe, I really want you to listen and trust in that voice.”
Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

4. “When a human lighthouse sees you in the midst of your storm, it points you toward safety and protection. In doing so, it also sends you and uncompromising message of belief: Yes, the situation is difficult, but you are not alone. I’m standing right here with you, and I know the way home.”
Steve Pemberton, The Lighthouse Effect: How Ordinary People Can Have an Extraordinary Impact in the World

5. “It doesn’t have to be a bad day, it can just be a bad moment.”
Mindfully Evie, Within These Four Walls

6. “The best thing you can possibly do with your life is to tackle the motherfucking shit out of it.”
Cheryl Strayed, Brave Enough

7. “A broken friendship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was.”
Stephen Richards, Forgiveness and Love Conquers All: Healing the Emotional Self

8. “The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.”
Pandora Poikilos, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

9. “Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”
― Pandora Poikilos, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

10. “No matter where you’re from or what you’ve done, you’re never stuck in a particular circumstance, relationship, or cycle unless you say you are.”
Russell Simmons, Super Rich: A Guide to Having It All

11. “Stop comparing yourself with others. If they are good at something, you too are good at something else. Self-confidence is not measured by your own capabilities versus that of others, but by your own needs.”
― Stephen Richards, Develop Jedi Self-Confidence: Unleash the Force within You

12. “Like everything in life, it is not what happens to you but how you respond to it that counts.”
Steve Backley, The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success

13. “Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
Shannon Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It’s Too Late

14. “The more you fail, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the more you grow.”
Jordan Tarver, You Deserve This Sh!t: Get Unstuck, Find Your Path, and Become the Best Version of Yourself

15. “The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.”
― Stephen Richards, Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful

16. “We don’t look at the stars in the universe and say how tragic they are, how bruised they are, even though that is what they are. We look at them and speak of the beauty they contain. The inspiration they give us. Even though stars are the scars of the universe we don’t see them as these broken pieces of gaseous matter, we see them as these majestic astrological blessings that give hope to billions. What if you saw yourself in that same light, or better yet what if you saw others in a similar way.”
Ricky Maye, Barefoot Christianity

17. “I never want you to deny anything about yourself because you have grown up thinking it’s unacceptable or inconvenient for the people around you.”
― Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl

18. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

19. “Vulnerability really means to be strong and secure enough within yourself that you are able to walk outside without your armor on. You are able to show up in life as just you. That is genuine strength and courage. Armor may look tough, but all it does is mask insecurity and fear.”
Alaric Hutchinson, Living Peace: Essential Teachings for Enriching Life

20. “You don’t need a reason to leave. Wanting to leave is enough. Leaving doesn’t mean you’re incapable of real love or that you’ll never love anyone else again. It doesn’t mean you’re morally bankrupt or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac. It means you wish to change the terms of one particular relationship. That’s all. Be brave enough to break your own heart.”
― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

21. “Always be fearless. Walk like lion, talk like pigeons, live like elephants and love like an infant child.”
Santosh Kalwar, Quote Me Everyday

22. “Pain doesn’t last. And when it’s gone, we have something to show for it. Growth.”
Kamal Ravikant, Live Your Truth

23. “I’m not a victim. I’m not a survivor. I’m a fighter.”
J.E. Mathewson, Use Your Voice: Speaking Out Against Child Sex Abuse

24. “What others think about you is none of your business.”
Jack Canfield, The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

25. “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

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